For all you brides-to-be who are in the planning process, allow me to share a story.
A story of how a quick decision could actually have been a good one.
The venue we chose for our ceremony/reception site is not "glamorous." It is not a modern studio or artsy museum like my dream wedding probably would have been held at.
When I went to see it, at the encouragement of my future mother-in-law, I was excited. When I showed up, I almost immediately thought that we would pass on the place. However, it was not so horrible that it didn't tug a few heart strings here and there when I looked around. The gazebo and bride's dressing rooms were beautiful and give me butterflies.
That day, we booked it, to my surprise. My fiance and his mother in law put down the deposit after about 10 minutes of talking(Thanks to them!!!). Basically, they were sold on it and though I didn't mind the place, I feel i would have had to come up with some blasphemous comment that even I didn't beleive to discourage them from being sold on the place.
And guess what? Six months later, all of my family and friends have only been excited to hear about the wedding. I've showed some of them the website of the venue, and have only heard good things spoken about it. Soon, everyone's excitement and the realization of what's really important about the wedding pushed the idea of "absolute, editorial-worthy perfection," left my mind for what I thought a wedding should be.
As if to furthrer seal it in the bag that this was our fateful place to marry, I happened to look at the pricing on the website the other day.
Their prices have SKY-ROCKETED!!!!
We booked our wedding there, for 150-200 guests, with tables, linen and chairs. We have two dressing rooms, and a dance floor. They provide clean up and free bar service. We have 12 hours the day of and time the day before to set up.
Their pricing has drastically changed. If we were to book now, for 50 guests, 8 hours total prep/celebration time, the price would be more than double what we paid.
Sometimes it is good to listen to your heart, and what the people who love you are telling you, instead of stubbornly holding onto a "vision" that probably couldn't have ever been absolutely "perfect" in the first place.
In the end, I feel really lucky that we got a cutesy place that we can afford that covers everything we need to enjoy time with our family and friends on our wedding day. I would choose a stress free, comfortable place over a difficult, unaffordable impressive space that we would only use for one day.
Thanks for reading!